When you are on Nexus Mods, you can like a mod or a screenshot by clicking on the “Endorse” button. If you ask me as a mod/screenshot author, it’s a curse and blessing at the same time – it can boost my ego, and decrease it when I don’t get any or only a few endorsements. I don’t know how many authors made the “mistake” to connect their self-worth with the amount of endorsements (or likes, thumb-ups, …) they receive. It will be a long journey until I can disconnect my self-worth from the endorsements. I already found good advises … Read more
Monthly Archives: February 2023
Last updated on February 20th, 2023 at 04:33 pm
On November 17, 2022, I believed that my forum “Modding on the Spectrum” was the next big thing – 42 users were online at the same time. I did my best to attract new users by promoting the Spectrum in other forums.
What I actually did is working against my true nature. I rather stay in the background and not in the center of attention. This applies to many areas of my life including mod releases. Yes, I did and do release mods but the main reason is that I simply … Read more
Fear or the inner critic
A mental health topic on Selene’s Shadow Realm (again)? Did you post on the wrong site? This blog is about your mods and projects. Why don’t you post it on Modding on the Spectrum where these subjects belong?….
What do you think after reading those lines? That I’m not sane? Sure, I have some more or less serious problems. And one of them is my inner critic. The first paragraph of the article shows you how his monologue can look like.
Before I go into more detail about my inner critic and my fears that are connected to him, … Read more
The #AskSelene31Something advice series
Last updated on February 6th, 2023 at 06:47 pm
The hashtag stands for my deepest wish to help people with matters concerning mental health and the life with neurodivergent/neurodiverse conditions – be it for example Autism or ADHD/ADD (see the glossary on Modding on the Spectrum for more info). No, I’m not a psychologist. I’m just an “old” girl that experienced things in her life that nobody shouldn’t have. If you want to know my story, you can find a summary here. I developed strategies to cope. Some did work, some did not. Since I got my first diagnosis … Read more